Our wedding is the stuff dreams are made of but the process of getting there is something I won’t soon forget.
Our Approach: After our rather short engagement, we only had six months to plan four days of wedding events. We needed to move quickly to make decisions that aligned with our priorities. It was never about having the best of everything. It was about making our friends and family feel cared for, making Jay’s family feel welcome and comfortable; to creating a space that reflected us as a couple. Jay and I met in New Orleans, Louisiana so we decided to have our wedding there. Many of our guests had never been to an Indian wedding or visited Louisiana before, so we really tried to blend the best of both these worlds together. Once we decided what our priorities were, we took out everything extraneous that didn’t support our objectives. The process was quite trying at times. The fun seemed to get zapped out of wedding planning at various points, but it was all worth it in the end. This wedding was such a special moment in not just our lives, but in our family’s lives as well. We have such bright happy memories from that weekend. We’re so grateful to our family and friends for being a part of it.
Location & Logistics: Our wedding weekend had three different venues in three different cities in Louisiana, so logistically it was complicated. We had to make sure everything was coordinated to a ‘T’ since we had people coming from all over the US and India. Once the venues were nailed down we started to pray for good weather since the events were pretty much all outdoors!
Choosing a Planner: Our wedding planner, Sarah of Events by Sarah Ashley, was wonderful and was instrumental to the success of the weekend. I specifically wanted to hire someone who had never done an Indian wedding before. I didn’t want anyone with pre-conceived notions of what an Indian wedding was supposed to be. We looked for someone who could distill the best of Indian and Southern traditions that made it look fresh and modern yet had all the classical elements.
Resources & Tools: Like every modern bride, I initially used Pinterest to help hone my vision but a few months before the wedding I stopped looking at it. I didn’t want to second-guess the decisions I already made or keep seeing new cute things. I technically could incorporate them but really didn’t have time for. When you go down the internet rabbit hole, there’s always a feeling that you should be doing more. I had to keep reminding myself why we were doing this and what the spirit of the event was really about.
I used Postable to gather all of my guest’s addresses. I even used them to send my thank you note cards out after the wedding. It was so easy and a real time saver. We used Appycouple for our wedding website and Eversnap so guests could share pictures after the wedding. This was a great help!