“I Married Myself and It Was The Best Decision Of My Life”

By Neha Garg Ahuja .

“Wearing the most beautiful pink dress and a pear-shaped engagement ring, I walked down the aisle carrying a bouquet of flowers, said my vows, and promised to keep myself happy before anyone else – and that’s how I got married – to myself.”

Being in the wedding industry for almost 5 years, I have seen a bunch of crazy and creative weddings happening around. From the bridal entrance on a horse to the groom entrance on a boat, there are endless ‘wow’ things that I have come across. But when I saw a bride getting married to herself, I was sure – this has to be the best thing I have read so far!

While we have often heard and talked about how no one else but only we could make ourselves the happiest. How Sologamy (a marriage by a person to oneself) can be the best thing and how wonderful it can be – and Melissa, the bride is the answer to everyone who is longing for everlasting love and commitment.

Melissa Denton had been married and divorced twice before she decided to spend the rest of life with herself. She got married in a beautiful pink dress, and the reception had a live band, karaoke, Dj and vegan feast.

In Melissa’s words – “The idea to marry myself came to me in January last year, when I was at work one day. Three weeks before, on Christmas Eve, I had received a text message from my boyfriend of five and a half years: “I can’t do this anymore, it’s over,” it said. It was devastating and left me in a funk, unable to eat, sleep or smile. He said, “You can get married, darling, but it won’t be to me.” It suddenly struck me that he was right. I could get married – to myself.”

She first thought it was wacky, and would not be possible, but then Melissa wanted to fall in love with herself before giving anyone else a chance to fall in love.

After thinking for a while she made up her mind to get married to herself on June 1′ 2018 and even bought an engagement ring to represent the everlasting love.

She even said, “My colleagues, sitting next to me, were the first to know of my plans. They, like most people, though I was a bit mad, but they also know me for being impulsive and committing to an idea when I have one.”

Her children – Ruby, 15, and Jasper, 11 were fine with the idea of Melissa getting married, but her 80-year old mother was the hardest to convince. But soon even she came around and was really proud of her decision.

Melissa spent the next six months organizing her wedding at the village hall in Osmington near her home and on the wedding day, the venue was beautifully filled with flowers, candles, family, and friends, who was a part of Melissa’s new and happy life.

Melissa’s friends helped her write the vows and she even had a stunning photo shoot on the beach. It was amazing, everyone was happy and celebrating to the fullest.

In Melissa’s words – “I was single and happy – the experience was empowering. Rather than wasting my time, energy and love on someone else, I was putting myself first. It was just like any other wedding – just without a groom. I walked down the aisle, in a pink dress, with a big smile – towards no-one. A friend gave me away and another officiated. I repeated the vows and put the ring on myself, and we passed a paper plate around the 130-person congregation for everyone to sign in lieu of a register, as it’s not a legal procedure. It was the best day of my life.”

About The Author

Neha Garg Ahuja

Director, Content and Marketing I The Crimson Bride I From the latest trends to the hottest styles, she pens all things viral and trending collateral to weddings, allowing you to cherry-pick the best ones that will add a special touch to your big day. When she’s not scrolling through the wedding inspirations or chatting with the brides, she’s off to exploring exotic locales with her husband, Sufi Ahuja. Follow her on Instagram @Nehagarg29