VISION: We wanted to do things differently and add elements that people hadn’t experienced. We want the celebrations to be fun, one that we looked back at, we would be proud of.
LOCATION: We started off planning for a Thailand wedding. We wanted to do something different and celebrate in a beautiful country that was also cost efficient and also have my extended family present. Most of my relatives all live in India so we wanted the wedding to somewhere it was convenient for them to travel to. However, Binny has a huge family in the US, who he’s very close to, and to whom I became very close to too. We didn’t want to look out into the crowd and not see everyone we there. So after a lot of convincing from our parents, we gave up on the Thailand wedding idea and decided to have a small reception in India for my relatives. Instead, we picked Maritime Parc in Jersey City so we could have the New York City skyline as our backdrop. We were born and raised in New York and we love our city, so what better backdrop than the famous skyline?
PLANNING: We planned our wedding in less than four months with the help of our wedding planner, Urvashi Mishra from Electric-Karma. I had never understood the reason for having a planner but I quickly learned why a couple should get one. She helped us every step of the way. She guided us on how to best approach the planning process. We started with what events we wanted, how to celebrate them, to what extent we would take the event to. She helped us pick the venues based on our vision, and then focus on the details of the event. Indian weddings are the most difficult weddings to plan since they involve so many days.
We were having a Hindu-Bengali and Punjabi wedding and wanted to incorporate both sides so having someone’s knowledge on every cultural background was key. We provided her ideas and descriptions of our vision and she provided us with the resources. Finding the right resources is difficult when you have full-time day jobs. Having someone there to give you a second opinion, tell you the pros and cons are so essential. I would highly recommend her Urvashi.
RESOURCES & TOOLS: I definitely did a lot of research and browsed many sites to get ideas. I Googled around a lot but some of my favorite resources and tools included The Crimson Bride, The Knot, Pinterest, Excels sheets. Our wedding planner was also a great resource as well. Urvashi knew my likes and dislikes and always helped us pick the best professionals for our wedding.
- Allow more planning time. I only had four months to plan our wedding and would recommend longer.
- Make a to-do list. You can easily forget things to do, so always write them down and make a list and give yourself a deadline to complete them by. Get things done soon so that you can check off on your list. It feels amazing to check things off!
- Enjoy it. Try to find the silver lining in all the madness – it will be one hectic/stressful time in your life that will never come back, so enjoy it to the fullest.